SHARED
THOUGHTS – 30.04.2016
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KILL
EGO, SAVE LOVE
Recently we
spent a few days in Bangalore after a long interval. As is my habit, I was
going through several older emails. Came across one that was sent by my sweet
niece on 28th March 2009. It was a shocker. Suddenly it made a
lot more sense than when I read it all previous times. This is what happens to
some messages. The full import of the message never dawns in one reading or in
a given situation. Whereas in another context, the same message can make a
world of difference to you. Let me share the message and my thoughts after
reading it.
Life has never
been defined in simpler way before. This is a serious lesson, we need to learn
it while we are alive and enjoying life. Sometimes love is for a moment,
sometimes, love is for a lifetime. Sometimes, a moment is a lifetime.
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Once upon a
time there was an island
where all the ‘feelings’ lived One day there was a storm in the sea and the island was about to get drowned. Every ‘feeling’ was scared but ‘Love’ made a boat to escape . Every ‘feeling’ boarded the boat.. Only 1 feeling was left behind. ‘Love’ got down to see who it was.. It was ‘EGO’ ‘Love’ tried and tried but ‘Ego’ wasn't moving.
Also the
water was rising..
Every one asked ‘Love’ to leave Égo’ and come into the boat,
but ‘Love’ was made to love.
At last all the ‘feelings’ escaped and Love dies with ego on the island.. Love Dies because of EGO. So, Leave ‘Ego’ alone, let Ego die… and Save Love.....!!!
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No one is
free of ego. Ego is latent in every personality. Only when it surfaces above
other emotions and become the dominant factor, the damage gets to be noticed.
. What does it take to subdue ego and rise above it? Let me narrate a real
life situation where the above message made wholesome sense.
There was
this person, quite close to me for over four decades. We shared some kind of
a bond, more than a mere relationship. We were on a similar wavelength on
many subjects, much to the chagrin of others around us. We literally grew up
from our 20’s to 60’s keeping this close bond, well tended and cared for,
despite occasional blow hot blow cold dampeners. Over the years, as the bond
grew stronger and closer, there was this sudden snap, just like that, unexpected
and out of the blue demise of the all important link between us. 2009
November 10. I was devastated by this shattering blow.
Some wounds
never heal. This was one such. Time passed. The loss was felt each time I
visited the city, rich with memories of joyful time together. Being not a
resident at close quarters, made it all the more easy for the rupture to
damage more than it should. The gap widened, with the link broken between the
two of us. There was no bonding factor, to substitute the link, other than
the bond itself that we shared. The link not only snapped our relationship,
but also the communication between us, as well. Time and distance
played its part to widen the gap.
I could
easily have stepped up and restored the link. I did not. This could as well
have been done at the other end. But it wasn’t to be. The fact was, for both
of us, this was not a priority…there was no urgency to restore the link or
perhaps the urge to be in touch was not there, given the fact, that the
common factors were diminishing in relevance. The flavour in our relationship
that lasted for over four decades, was lost to indifference. The rift widened
and widened, with the passing of every year.
Where is
the end to this indifference?. What is this leading to? The link was all
important and dear to me, if so, what is the respect I am showing to this
link? These questions surfaced in my mind just like that. It was a
coincidence that the above message had to be read at a time, when we both
were in the same city together perhaps for the first time in many years.
Realising
that there was no need for a better time to restore our relationship, I just
picked up the phone and made a conversation for the first time after about
seven years. It was as if we had been in touch all the while and this call
was just another one, picking up where we left. It was that easy. A
relationship was brought to life from coma.
A good
lesson to all. Leave Ego alone and save Love. This relationship is best
described as a cute relationship, when one is angry and says I will never
talk to you. And a while later comes back to just inform you that I am still
angry.
'Argument
wins the situations but loses the person. So when you argue with your loved
ones, remember that situations is never more important than your loved
ones.....'
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Have a safe & peaceful week ahead.
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