Life does not give second chance. 20.09.2016.

SHARED THOUGHTS – 20.09.2016

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Life does not give second chance.  (from my Archives of this day in past years)

It was their anniversary, and Aisha was waiting for her husband Rajiv to show up.

Things had changed since their marriage.  The once cute made-for-each-other couple, had fought… and the sweetness in their marriage turned bitter.
Fighting over every little things, both didn't like the way things had changed. Aisha was waiting to see if Rajiv remembered it was their anniversary!
Just as the doorbell rang she ran to find her husband wet and smiling with a bunch of flowers in his hand.

The two started re-living the old days. Making up for fights, then was dinner plan and champagne, light music and it was raining outside! Just
perfect to be home. But the moment paused when the phone in the bedroom rang. Aisha went to pick it up and it was a man.

"Hello ma'am I'm calling from the police station. Is this Mr. Rajiv Mehra's number?"
"Yes it is!"

"I'm sorry ma'am; but there was an accident and a man died. We got this number from his wallet; we need you to come and identify his body."

Aisha's heart sank.!!! She was shocked! But my husband is here with me?"

"Sorry ma'am, but the incident took place at 2 pm, when he was boarding the train." Aisha was about to lose her conscience.

How could this happen?!
She had heard about the soul of the person coming to meet a loved one before it leaves!

She ran into the other room. He was not there. It was true! He had left her for good!!

Oh God, she would have died for another chance to mend every little fight! She rolled on the floor in pain. She lost her chance! Forever!

Suddenly there was a noise from the bathroom, the door opened and Rajiv came out and said

"Darling, I forgot to tell you my wallet got stolen today".
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LIFE MIGHT NOT GIVE YOU A SECOND CHANCE.

SO NEVER WASTE A MOMENT WHEN YOU CAN STILL MAKE UP FOR YOUR WRONGS.. or HIS
WRONGS.. !!!

There’s always an opportunity, let's start making amends. To parents, To siblings, To friends… and many more.

No one is promised tomorrow. Have a wonderful Life with no regrets!

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Dear Lalit,

We experienced such a horror…that dreaded day has once again arrived. Life did not give us a second chance.

In addressing you thus, on this day every year, is our way to give vent to our deep inferno of emotions that would otherwise explode.

We see you in our midst and you have never gone beyond our reach, for you are just there waiting for us. With each passing day, this dreaded day gets further in measure, it is now nine years my dear, and our destined tryst a day closer. That is the only way, we comfort ourselves and face each day.

Whoever said that loss gets easier with time was a liar. Here's what really happens:

You don't get over it; you just get through it. You don't get by it; because you can't get around it.

It doesn't get better; it just gets different. Everyday...Grief puts on a new face.

Pain has become a part of our life. The energy we put to tame the pain, sees us through the days we live. We appear normal even to ourselves.

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I have a brother whom I love a lot. He made me laugh, made me cry sometimes, pulled my hair, fought with me, stood up for me, drove me crazy, watched me succeed, saw me fail (and laughed), picked me up, scolded me, made me strong, made me feel wanted as I lay injured.. my brother I cannot do without..

It was great, dear brother, though it lasted for only a while, short & sweet, it was fun having you as my brother.

(what Madhvi would’ve wanted to express)

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Living In You

Some things in life never change,
Sometimes in life you don't find reasons,
Some moments in life aren't forgotten,
Sometimes you lose hope...
When time rolls by you to forget
What holds you on...

Some people in life are a part of you,
And when you let them go,
You never lose them.
Because... you find them living in you.

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It’s said, “Time heals all wounds,” I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens.

Rose Kennedy.

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Sharing some pictures from Lalit’s visit to Sydney… we will never to get to hear from him, how much he enjoyed and all the wonderful stories behind each frame.,. thank you Selvam

    http://www.flickr.com/gp/15493229@N04/K44XfP  

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Have a safe week and LIVE EVERY MOMENT, with gay abandon.

MOHANDAS KIZHAKKE.

http://mohandas-sharedthoughts.blogspot.com/

Dash hara - victory over 10 bad qualities.

SHARED THOUGHTS – 15.10.2016

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Dash hara – victory over 10 bad qualities.

In recent days there were enthusiastic and passionate celebrations across India and wherever Indians are across the globe, celebrating Vijaya Dashami, also known as Dassarah. While the celebrations were confined mainly to Hindus, well wishes & greetings crossed all man made barriers typical of the mixed culture and unity in diversity that’s the hallmark of Indian society.

Likewise the day after Vijaya Dashami this year, was Muharram, an important day in Muslim calendar. Muharram was the day on which Hussein Ibn Ali was martyred in the battle of Karbala. Shia Muslims spend the day in mourning, whilst the Sunni Muslims fast on this day commemorating the rescue of the people by Moses from Pharaoh. How did History orchestrate future happenings to see these two sections of Muslims as arch foes for all generations to come, is a deep mystery as much as it is tragic, leading to death and destruction over hundreds of years.

In a latent sense, Dassarah means Dasha hara, a Sanskrit word which means removal of ten bad qualities within you. Hence also known as Vijaya Dashami signifying “Vijaya” (victory) over these ten bad qualities. Stories / legends are wound over such philosophies that add colour to the belief. Story goes on to show that the day marks the victory of Durga over the demon Mahishasura; The Goddess fought with Evil for ten days and nine nights.. marking finally the victory of Good over Evil.

The ten bad qualities to overcome in our life are - Ahankara – Ego ; Amanavta – Cruelty ; Anyaya – Injustice ; Kama vasana – Lust ;  Krodha – Anger ;  Lobha – Greed ;  Mada – Over pride ;  Matsara – Jealousy ;  Moha – Attachment ;  Swartha – Selfishness.

Messages as above and more such came in abundance over social media.. from various corners, such that the above message perhaps not known to many few years back is now common knowledge to all, at least for one day, thanks to whatsapp.

Of the ten bad qualities to overcome, we live with a few, impossible to live without. The only point is to what extent we can reduce it with each New Year resolution – Ego, Anger  Greed, Over-pride, Jealousy, Attachment, Selfishness.  This makes it 7 out of 10, that we choose to live with, like it or not.

Let’s see this 7/10.

One needs only Ego to destroy a perfect relationship. The above message of Dash hara was sent to me by 7 friends and relatives. I am well aware of the fact that one of the seven who sent this message is in the firm grip of Ego’s tentacles, the resultant casualty being a perfect relationship that that person enjoys with a well-wisher.

It is said, Anger is a punishment we inflict upon ourselves due to somebody else’s mistake. A man makes a mistake. In a weak moment of indiscretion, some spoken words have hurt another person, causing raw burning Anger to explode up to the last drop of sanity…and boiling over all attempts to put out. In such a situation, anger gives rise to Ego which prevents the hurt to forgive the mistake. Fretting and fuming, the hurt spends the rest of the days, weeks and perhaps longer,  punishing oneself over someone else’s mistake. What a wise saying. With passage of time, what could have been a simple cause & effect of one day duration, has been blown to a full scale issue of pride clothed in Ego.. or over-pride. This over-pride too kills relations – a deadly potent stuff.

We all know, a rich person is not one who has everything, but one who does not need anything.

Having everything, we still look for more; visiting malls, branded shops, fancy expensive personal items – there’s no limit to our wants. We buy gold for a moment of pleasure, to be confined to the lockers soon after; we buy another watch to add to the existing few; more and more clothes that can cover us ten times around; footwear always find space over and above the dozens that have hardly been soiled … and so on. This is Greed, in a harmless way though.

Greed, in its evil form is another matter, which not all of us are under its influence.

Attachment is a part of our being. Each of us, whether we like it or not, is a slave to Attachment. Without Attachment, the cohesion in a family becomes impossible. Philosophy can state the importance of diluting attachment, to attain higher plain of existence, with justification that can run into volumes. But the cradle of a new born, gives birth to Attachment as a powerful emotion binding the new born to the family and vice versa. This continues up to the grave, following which those left behind will grieve.. and so on and so forth.

Attachment to material objects of wealth are on another level, where Greed prospers.

Selfishness and Jealousy are always looked at in its negative connotation, even though there are positives for both. Listing these under bad qualities that should be removed, means, they are in the negative sense. To be fair and totally honest, not many of us can vouch that we have not been jealous or selfish at some time or the other. As long as these remain harmless and the feelings have been well controlled or checked immediately for better sense to prevail, we can live with these negatives without much guilt.  However for an avid follower of soap operas on the ‘idiot box’, jealousy and selfishness will form the staple diet for survival, reducing one to be a real idiot, unless care is taken not to include those recipes in our daily life.

3/10 may not apply to all – cruelty, injustice and lust; in a fair and well-meaning life that we lead, perhaps there is no place for these three to prevail to the extent of being concerned to overcome as a target.

In varying doses, lust is present in all of us, not in its crude unrefined sense, but on a more accepted version, meaning need for Love or romance.

Cruelty and injustice are two sides of the same coin. We can easily overcome these with a sense of fairness, which we are all capable.

In conclusion, each day of festivity or celebration sends out messages that are filled with sense that aid us to lead a better life. It is easy to forward such messages to others, but difficult to practice its contents, if at all one reads the messages to understand its significance.

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All bad qualities center round the ego. When the ego is gone, Realization results by itself. There are neither good nor bad qualities in the Self. The self is free from all qualities. Qualities pertain to the mind only.

Ramana Maharshi.

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Have a safe week-end and a pleasant week ahead..   

MOHANDAS KIZHAKKE.

http://mohandas-sharedthoughts.blogspot.com/